Posted on

Solitude Is Good For The Soul So Disconnect!

Photo by Etienne Desclides via

In search of solitude I go. I will admit lately I can’t get out of my own way. I sit and try to compile lists of things I want to do, both creatively and in everyday life. But I get caught up in my thoughts and anxieties. I know we all do, but it is more of a problem lately. Part of the problem is disconnecting.

Think about how much we’re connected. The first thing I do in the morning is turn on my phone. I’m good at turning it off when I go to bed as I don’t want that random 2 am sleep interruption. But the moment I wake, I’m reaching for the smart phone and on it goes. I can’t even count how many times a day I check various social media and email. Sound familiar?

Even as write this post, my phone is sitting on the desk in front of me and my monitor.

All this connectivity adds to the distraction and detachment from what I want to do. I see what other artists are doing and how others are living their lives and I say, “wait! I should be doing that.”

But then nothing. I can’t get out of my own way.

I look at what Ryan Lochte did in Rio. His actions and more so his response got in his way. A tarnished reputation that I suspect will take time to overcome, if ever. I know it’s an extreme comparison, but sometimes we are our own worst enemy.

It’s the same I think for me and probably many other creatives: we want to do so much but can’t seem to move out of our own way. Our own thoughts and action, or inaction, keep us from achieving our purpose.

Find the Solitude Everyday Just For a Moment

It’s easy to let myself get distracted. No I haven’t jumped onto the Pokemon Go craze and nor will I. But I get distracted by many other things from the news, to sports to even DraftKings, (yes, I love the fantasy football and thankfully it’s back in New York.) All these things and many others distract and corrupt the peaceful mind.


“In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.” 

-Laurence Sterne

I need to disconnect, even for thirty minutes a day. We all do. It’s finding that peaceful place to delve into our thoughts or to simply think of nothing. . Finding a little solitude will go a long way. The point is to get out of my own head. Once I do that, my creative process will prosper. At the very least, I’ll feel much better.