You’re a dad and an artist. What does your daily schedule look like? If you’re anything like me, your day-to-day life is hectic, fun, exhausting and purposeful. With kids, creating and possibly a day job, each moment is filled.
The challenge of fatherhood and practicing a creative lifestyle is balancing all of it. How do you be a good father and still meet your commitments. Let’s be real, the lawn doesn’t mow itself. Fatherhood is the single most important “thing” a man will do with his life if he chooses. However, that doesn’t mean we have to sacrifice the other passions in our lives.
The balance is attainable. We have to figure it out.
How To Balance In 7 Steps
So how do you balance fatherhood and making art? Seven steps. Yep, another step program but hey, it works.
- The most basic is think. First thing in the morning is take a few minutes, as little as 5, and think about what you want to create. A quick plan to start your day gives you focus.
- Eat breakfast. Fuel, healthy fuel, is the foundation. Creativity is a lifestyle. A healthy, nutrient-packed breakfast (I usually go with fruit and fat-free Greek yogurt) get’s everything in you working.
- Write-it down. During breakfast and after thinking about the day, I jot down my ideas, my thoughts on whatever applies to the creativity.
- Schedule your time. Once you have a plan that is written down, pick a time that works for you. Ignore all that talk about what is the best time of day to do whatever. You have your life, pick a time that works for you. (I’m writing this on Sunday morning because this is all I got.)
- When the time for you to create comes, stick to it. Now, many times for me include having my son with me. But we use this time to do the things we want to and he’s young enough that he wants to do what daddy’s doing. The key is to stick to the time. Make it a habit.
- Remove the clutter. Whether it’s physical stuff or digital distractions, removing all that unnecessary stuff allows you to focus.
- Stop stressing over what you’re not doing. Unless you’re a full-time creator, you will not get to everything you want to accomplish. So stop stressing. Schedule and plan according to realistic time frames. If you don’t have 4 hours to create that mural, then plan for and do what you can in 20 minutes.
The Creative Lifestyle Isn’t Effortless
It’s hard living a creative lifestyle. The challenge is you want to constantly create but time is finite. We as creators must pick and choose what we do, when we do it.
Creators must compromise. It’s a fact of life. My work centers around nature and the inspiration I find from the environment. Not only do I find nature beautiful and exciting to create from, but exploring nature relieves the stress of life.
A pursuit of a creative life is also a pursuit of making oneself a better human. Nature only enhances our abilities to better ourselves. But of course, it isn’t easy. The creative lifestyle, like fatherhood is hard. There are constant obstacles and we never perceive to have enough time.
Fatherhood, creating, work, life. Everything is a challenge and that’s the point. Imagine the lessons you will teach your children if they see you pursuing your creative passion.
You’re doing. You’re getting after it.
Think. Eat healthy. Write your ideas down. Schedule your time. Stick to your plan. Get rid of the clutter and distractions and most of all stop stressing. Choose to let the stress go.
Now go and create. Go. Do.